A Good Man. Tonight I watched one of my favorite shows on television; As Time Goes By. It is a British comedy, and if you haven't gotten the chance to watch it, I highly recommend that you do. In a nutshell, it's about a couple that were in love in their youth but were separated for many years. They never thought they'd meet again, but did years later and their love was reunited. The story picks up there, with their life and issues and kids and circumstances now. Lionel and Jean are the two main characters, and they are simply wonderful.
I have always been especially drawn to the character of Lionel, but as I watched tonight, it occured to me that he is quite possibly the outline of the perfect man. He is smart, very funny in a very sarcastic kinda way, he is absolutely devoted to Jean so much so that he ends up waist deep in whatever akward situation she's gotten herself into, he always has great advice for the many people that ask it, he knows when to talk and when to stay out of it, he is sensitive, and is manly and handsome in a non-showy, macho, or exaggerated way. Granted he is considerably older, but I think his personality traits are something that any man should emulate, and any woman should appreciate.
If I've learned one thing in my past relationships, it is that to settle is futile. I've done that, and can say without doubt that it is more miserable than being alone. Life is far too short to be spent with someone that has no chance of living up to many of the qualities listed above. Please don't misunderstand me and think I am demanding perfection and nothing less, that's impossible and not something I'd even wish for. But I do believe that there are Lionel's out there, men that aren't perfect, but do possess the basic but essential traits required in order to achieve a healthy and fullfilling relationship.
Perhaps this is an entry best left to a private journal, but since I'm lousy at keeping one of those, but love writting in this format, I decided to post it here anyway. Make of it what you wish. For me, it serves as a reminder of something I often forget and something I believe many other people forget as well. Perhaps the first step in finding happiness in life is to clearly identify what you want out of it, and I think a large part of that task is accomplished by reminding yourself of things that you don't want, so that you will recognize and avoid such mistakes in the future. When the details of my past begin to get foggy, as they inevitably do, I will turn to this entry as a lasting reminder. At the very least, maybe I will inspire someone to watch a great and very entertaining British show!
Mom, Jenny and I spent a terrific day shopping and lunching at the mall. Mom spent some of her birthday money, and even got her ears re-pierced. For some reason the holes closed up a couple of months ago. While browsing at the pagoda, I decided that I want to get the top part of my ear pierced. It's something I've thought about off and on for a long time. I've given up the tatoo dream, but I think I'm gonna let myself have the piercing. Not now though, I have to find out about CA first...they only allow one pair of modest earrings for women and I wouldn't be able to take out the ring for 6 weeks. It was great to spend a day with just us girls, window shopping at Haywood. Thank you Mom and J for a great day!
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